The candle that burns twice as bright burns half as long. Keep in mind that overcompensating IS overcompensating. Learn to also value yourself. That's not being selfish, that's saving him from all the crap your insecure self may throw at him. You're not the only one struggling here, okay? If you can't handle yourself well, how can you expect him to tolerate you? Common sense, dude!
Put that emotionally sensitive, needy woman at the back of your car and throw her in the river. I don't ever want to see that demanding, paranoid bitch of a girlfriend ever again!
Figure out how you will change. It can be hard to alter your routines but know that you have to do it. Let go of yourself and let go of him if you want it to work. Remind yourself this: "to each his own" Just have the courage to let go and accept the fact that there are things you cannot control. Je ne sais quoi. It is what it is. He deserves to be free and to live his life apart from the world you built. Let him be a part, not a prisoner, of your world. It will be hard, but you can do it. And do it, you must! :-)
Stop the constant, annoying smothering. Quit the nagging. Find ways to let go of that demanding version of yourself who keeps giving your relationship the kiss of death. Instead of being needy, be needed. Be someone whom he will be scared of losing; not that whom he thinks he can dump any moment he wishes to. Save yourself the trouble of being called names or judged beyond your defense.
Revert back to the better you; the real you. Be the person you loved, not that person who wants to be loved. Only then can you refuse to be underrated and overlooked, because you have every right to be appreciated and respected. That way you will not be upbraided for the love you get, and can save yourself from self-pity when you find out he secretly wants to get rid of you.
Despite anything, just stop fearing; trust completely; watch your ways; be expressive, not destructive; nurture the relationship but grow as an individual; stop talking too much so you won't be treated with apathy; learn new things but keep your values intact. Eventually, it will be apparent that you are also worth the fight.
Just pull yourself together lady. :-)
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