Verbal Intercourse

This may not surprise you but I am a fan of chitchats. I love how even the most nonsense chatters pave the way for two or more minds to meet. Conversing, in my opinion, is the best way to let people know what's going on inside your brain. As we converse, we do more than express ourselves; we allow others to stimulate and direct our train of thought with their response. Unlike writing or expressing one's self thru arts where the affect and effect travel down a one-way street, a conversation allows us to get a real-time retort.

Conversation is a noun defined as "informal interchange of thoughts" but there's more to conversation than that. It implies a response and requires mutual respect. It is when the conversationalists move each other and reach for a new horizon from their mutual generosity and acceptance. It is an unrelenting rhythmic movement that causes the birth of a new frenzy or a long-overdue perception or a perplexing revelation; registers shift in a rapid or listless motion and tones vary, depending on the notion.


A good conversation requires a great deal of generosity from both parties. A conversation demands the generosity not just in listening per se, but also in giving the other person the benefit of the doubt; in assuming that the other person might be saying something worth listening to. Most of the time, I catch myself listening to other people with some judgment and hesitation clouding in my head but I am never without the pure intent to listen. I don't always assume that what they're about to say will interest me, but I listen anyway and try to avoid any caustic remarks because I know I'll hear something familiar, at least. Another kind of generosity that a conversation demands is the generosity of enthralling the other party with your rousing intellect, your willingness to take in what they're saying and move towards another boundary.

A conversation requires courage -- the courage to put behind any apprehensions and just feel comfortable sharing of one's thoughts; the clout of staying intact with your own self while allowing yourself to drown in the others'; the boldness to expose one's self to a strange realm and not get lost.

Participating in a conversation means giving yourself -- your whole self. On this note, let me reiterate that a GOOD conversation demands generosity and credence. Only then will two independent thoughts dwell in a par. I think that's the reason why I enjoy conversations. I find good conversations to be splendid yet equally complicated. When we converse, it doesn't only involve words; it involves our whole being.

It is physical yet intellectual, much like a verbal intercourse -- the foreplay from pensive thoughts, the cosmic connection, the deliberate flexibility, the euphoric climax. Yes, a lingual rendevouz is beyond cursory sexy. Oh, boy, what a rare and beautiful thing!